This article no longer represents my views about the Law of Attraction. Instead of reading this, I wish you would instead read: Why Learning About the Law of Attraction is a Waste of Time!

One night I was laying in bed recently and I was feeling down about some of the ways that I have hurt other people’s feelings in the past. The past break ups with the ex-girlfriends, the past lost friendships, and those sorts of things. Of course, I also was thinking about this often with the knowledge that not all of it was my fault. Sometimes, the knowing that it was not your fault is not enough to cheer you up. Even knowing that, heartbreak can just as easily stick around. So I began to go through the exercise of ‘letting go,’ which I’ve described in Overcoming Emotional Attachment. Letting go is a great concept, and it is a very powerful method for managing how you cope and deal with your negative emotions. But I think that there are a couple problems with it, in thinking about it, a few flaws that it has in terms of its focus. For one, when you let go of something, you often have let the emotion go, but sometimes there can be a sensation of it sort of creeping back later. You continue to let it go over and over, and this is the right thing to do. When an emotion continues to return over the period of months or years(and this is to be expected to some degree), just continue to drop it.

Then I thought about the Law of Attraction. Something struck me about the idea recently. I recently was watching the movie, The Secret, and was remembering some of the details discussed about how “you can use the Law of Attraction to create wonderful things, or you can use it to create terrible things,” or something to that effect. Then I thought back to my whole life story, and looked at it in the scope of the big picture. The story I speak of I wrote about in my book, The Island of Yellow, and I describe in a post here on the site, My Personal Experience of Dealing With Opposing Forces. What happened was that I was having an experience constantly during my time in intermediate school where I would get a premonition, then see the premonition occur in reality very shortly afterward. But was I getting the premonition because something was about to occur in reality or was reality occurring because of the premonition?

The Law of Attraction states that whatever you focus on grows, that like attracts like. If all I was doing in that story was focus on what terrible thing might be about to happen, what’s going to occur? I’m of course going to experience something in my reality that reflects that. It was only during the final years of high school that I really began to envision my goals as coming true. And what happened? They did. I began to form a vision of a film making company, of young kids coming together to form a goal. The entire time, things kept happening to allow me to do this. My production company, Barton Ct. Productions, became very successful. I had a vision of completing my book, and eventually it has happened. The book is in published form now. Perhaps what you focus on is the very thing that becomes true, the very thing that manifests in reality.

But what often becomes your life story is a series of events that leads to something along the lines of a series of zeros, a list of sad times, bad times, and failures, with a few happy successes. Or at least, that was what my life story was, until last night. I’m going to outline a visualization/meditation sort of exercise that helped me extensively and could very well help you as well.

The first thing is to close your eyes.

Be as comfortable and relaxed as possible. Breathe in deep, and breathe out slowly.

Conjure up the images of your life story. All the major events that unfolded. Take note of your current successes, the successes of the past, and when you do – recognize how that sensation feels to you. Notice how you feel a sense of joy, happiness, and possibly a thrill over the things you have achieved.

Then think of your failures, your heartbreaks, your sad moments. But as you think of those, imagine that those events that caused the heart ache to slip up and out of the timeline – they temporarily leave existence. In its place, imagine the happiness you felt prior to those events. Imagine the great things that they could have been. See in front of you, in full, vivid detail, the most beautiful detail of that memory that leads to what would have been deemed as the ‘failure’ in your eyes. For me, this meant taking a look at my break ups. Forget the break up – remember the wonderful moments you had together, the reason you got together in the first place.

What this entire exercise allows you to do, especially over a prolonged period of time, is to place your focus where it belongs. No longer do the failures govern your image of the story – they never had to to begin with. Now what defines the story is the great experiences you had. The laughs, the smiles, the joy – the fun times that you lived then and that you continue to recreate for yourself today again and again. You might think Isn’t this just living in denial? My response to that question is no – to continue to emphasize the pain, to continue to feel the dread with every level of your being is to be in denial. Denial of the greatness, the epic masterpiece of those prior experiences. You, whether you realize it or not, have lived an outstanding life, full of victories. While the endings and heart ache might have felt big, it is the small things that actually made up the majority and bulk of your entire experience.

Recreate your life story. Yes, you had some mistakes – everybody has mistakes. All that is, is so what? Place your focus on the bulk of your experience, which was the joy that happened. Do this, and I promise you will begin to feel better. If you combine this exercise with the process of letting go, this recreation meditation can be the icing on the cake for leading you back to a state of emotional bliss. :)

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