Principles of Seduction – Part 4

<< Back to Principles of Seduction – Part 3

Methodology

After you’ve gotten the feel for what it is like to approach women(or men, for that matter), there are a number of techniques and tactics you can use within conversation and social context that will greatly aid you. The techniques I will talk about here are anchoring, patterning, and matching & mirroring. These three elements are some of the most important in gaining momentum toward your initial romantic advances. I’m talking about them here because I have had some experience with all of them, and continue to especially use anchoring, and mirroring frequently throughout my daily life.

Anchoring

Anchoring is the process through which you “anchor” or associate a physical sensation with a particular thought, feeling, or memory. You can also anchor certain imagery and symbols to other things as well. Then, every single time you desire another person to conjure up one of those thoughts, feelings, or memories, you can then simply utilize the anchor and they will be unable to avoid going through that sensation. This is a concept talked about a lot in NLP, and it is also used throughout therapy of various forms. But you can use anchoring for anything. With girls, one of the most powerful things to anchor to is positive feelings of sex and sexuality, or perhaps just strong, positively oriented emotional passion.

So how do you anchor? Well, the first step is to get the mind to be guided into a direction that you desire. This includes both your mind, and their’s. In part 3, I mentioned that whatever you cause them to experience, you are also often bringing it upon yourself. This is very true in anchoring, and always brings you into the situation you want them to experience, sometimes it can even do that more for you than them. But it’s all okay – let this be considered a form of experimentation. Anchoring can be mounted in a simple conversation, even one that talks about anchoring itself. For instance:

YOU: You know, I was reading this article the other day and I came across this really interesting thing.
GIRL/GUY: Oh yeah? What was it?
YOU: It was an article about seduction and this technique called anchoring.
GIRL/GUY: And what is that?
YOU: Well, what it says to do first is to get the other person thinking about sex, or a very deep feeling of love. Can you remember a time when you felt that?
GIRL/GUY: Well yeah, of course.t
YOU: Alright, now if you’ve brought up some memory, imagine that memory slipping away and being replaced by nothing but the pure feeling of it, just the feeling, and nothing else. [Grab his/her wrist in a certain way.] And with you thinking about this, every time I grab your wrist in this way, you will feel that feeling.

This is just an example of one possible conversation, and while there are plenty of clever ways to sneak it into a conversation, this is the general structure of how anchoring works. You conjure up a feeling, and then simply proceed to build an association. And as you can also probably guess, anchoring is not just something that can be used for seduction, you can use this in your current relationships as well!

Patterning

NLP, or neuro linguistic programming, is an application of how the mind is affected by language. In NLP, patterns are often prefabricated statements that are designed to carry out particular mental processes and functions. Patterns do the same basic process that anchoring does and this process is basically the same universally. You are covertly directing thoughts toward a particular direction, building a certain feeling, or allow them to call it up. Here’s one example of a pattern by John Casewest, used for seduction:

Has anyone ever told you that you have the most interesting eyes?

You know I know a few people with eyes like yours and I’ve found people with eyes like that tend to be exciting and riveting people, like that glow isn’t just right there but in their whole personality as well…

It’s like as if when you look into someone’s eyes, you can just see the whole way into them, and *feel so comfortable. With me*, it’s even more exciting though, the different things people can say with their eyes – eyes can also show deep understanding, and whether you’re paying close attention to something or what’s going on deep inside you.

Patterns are fun to experiment with, and after so long of doing them you might even try forming your own. Original patterns that have never been heard before anywhere, or at least very, very few places can be the most effective if they’re done properly. The interesting thing about this information, and especially patterns is that patterns and “pick up lines” differentiate to such a massive extent. The mere idea of a pick up line is sort of ridiculous – you’re not going to use it anywhere except to get pick ups. Patterns can be designed to be used anywhere, for any purpose.

Matching & Mirroring

Matching & mirroring has many names, but one of them that it does NOT have is “mimicry.” Matching & mirroring is the process by which you adopt certain common physical mannerisms of another in order to initiate a subconscious sense of commonality between the two of you. You can also match & mirror entire groups by mixing different gestures and items that all of them are doing at once, but the larger the group you are orienting yourself towards, the more trouble you’re likely going to have making an influence. The most powerful influence in matching & mirroring, is one on one influence.

One popular way to mirror another is to first match their breathing. If a person’s breathing is clearly apparent, there in front of you, the best way to gain an initial sense of synchronization with them is to match their breathing, and then pick out a certain element from them to match. If when they’re talking about certain things they move their hand a certain way or make a gesture a certain way, then when YOU talk about that same topic you should do a bit of the same, but you do not want to flat out repeat clear cut straight & center absolutely everything they’re doing.

Subtlety is the key in this area. The one thing you do not want to do in this process is to get caught, because especially depending on the context – it could really start twisting things in a direction you do not want them to go. Each one of these concepts can be applied toward general social behavior, and this one is no different. If you are in a business situation, the person you’re with may either laugh, become annoyed, or even become offended over what you’re doing. Make it minimal, and pick and choose. If you have certain habits yourself, keep those habits and continue moving through with them. You want to choose the gestures that feel the most natural to you.

Matching & mirroring could be actually the most interesting technique out of all three of these concepts, because matching and mirroring is entirely without words. It is a game of body language, and throughout many people’s experiences, strange things happen. Sometimes after mirroring another person so much, you might find yourself doing it automatically after a certain point! Other times, people will start mirroring you without even realizing it! And these occurrences are solid proof that a subconscious process of body language to find common ground is truly going on constantly in a social situation.

Continue onto Principles of Seduction – Part 5 >>