Comments on: The 6 Month Relationship Mark

By: Kendra

Kendra — Sat, 05 Nov 2011 00:43:20 +0000

My boyfriend and I are heading to our 6-months together. (We’re in our senior year in high school…he’s 18, I’m 17) We’ve had a few arguments, two of which had to deal with morals and religious beliefs – and of course, I’m the rare chance that a girl’s beliefs and morals are different than a guy’s -.- He did tell me he was saving himself for marriage, which is completely fine with me, but I did have to tell him that something I miss out of all my relationships is the sexual connection, although I’ve only had that actual connection with one person – it’s still something I miss. He said we could fix that just…no sex. Within the past month or so we’ve been more physical, cuddling, kissing, etc. and recently I’ve been down a bit lately, we discussed within the past week that we’re most likely not going to work out no longer than after graduation, and it really kills me and I start to wonder if this is even worth it? What’s the point in being in this…knowing things won’t work out? I’m trying to get out of this “funk” before we “celebrate” our 6-months together tomorrow, but today I just feel like him and I aren’t happy – even though he really insists that he truly is happy with me – and it feels as though we aren’t “one”. Not sure what the problem is, we communicate well, we’ve done nearly everything right, it just seems things are suddenly going wrong (in my perspective).

I hope I can take from this advice and realize that my own personal problems and bad thoughts are affecting this relationship to work and hope that things do work out.

By: kayla

kayla — Tue, 26 Jul 2011 17:22:37 +0000

Well my bf and I have been going out for 6 months now and we have gotten to the point were we just fight about the stupidest things for example; we were sitting in target parking lot and so on well he got mad at his car cause it wasnt starting and I saw a bee in his car so I decided not to tell him until the bee flew out of his car since he is deathly scared of bee so i told hm “there was a bee in you car”, and then you told me to shut the “f” up and that he wasnt in the mood for jokes.
So then we got mad at each other because I was telling him the truth and because he was mad at his car and there has been alot more. but now we havent really been in the mood for each other since that and I dont know if we just both need space or what maybe just a couple hours together every couple days until he really misses me.

By: Rnadee

Rnadee — Thu, 28 Apr 2011 15:09:10 +0000

This article made sense. I have been with my boyfriend almost 9 months. Up until a couple weeks ago, Is tarted feeling really strange about the whole thing for some reason. My last relationship eventually ended because we fell out of love and it all started like this around this time. When entering into my new relationship, I was so scared of this happening I feel like I almost made it happen on my own. It’s very weird and I just want things back to how they were. I know I don’t want to lose him and would be very sad if I did but I can’t help dwelling on it. Any ideas?

By: Jess

Jess — Wed, 19 Jan 2011 09:18:00 +0000

I had 2 days left in my relationship before i met the 6 month mark and my boyfriend ended our relationship. I’d never got on so well with anybody as i did with him. The communication was strong from the beginning and the physical contact was always really good. He suffers from Depression and he brought this into the equation when he told me how he felt. He assured me there wasn’t another women and that i was ‘perfect’ for him but the fact he wasn’t making as much of an effort as i was rang alarm bells with him and made him realise he isn’t cut out for a relationship, surely i should have been the judge of that right? I’m 20 he was 19, it was also coming up to my 21st maybe that played a part in the break up, however all I know is i’ll never forget him, he was my first love and i’ll miss him terribly

By: Scott Lee

Scott Lee — Tue, 19 Oct 2010 21:26:00 +0000

Suzan,

There seem to be a whole lot of details you’ve thrown out all at once and each one of them could very well have a variety of causes, results, and thus may mandate a variety of responses from myself and others. However, I think each relationship can easily be a unique case. If the two of you are happy with where you are then that is essentially what matters.

Have you talked to him about your feelings or your doubts? What he says in response to how you feel can easily make a huge difference. If it were me, I would think not meeting his son makes a small statement, at the least, about the context of the relationship. So the main thing here is: you need to talk to him about your thoughts and feelings regarding this.

As for the whole idea of any chemicals shifting just because you’re six months into a relationship, I would be very skeptical of that. Even with the decline in the chemical high or what the polyamorous label as NRE (new relationship energy) you should know that the enjoyment of a relationship is not dependent on chemical highs. Dedication and commitment toward one another should also not involve whether or not you have that mushy gushy sense of infatuation that you may have had at the beginning of the relationship.

It is best not to fear what has not yet happened in most cases. If you cannot think of a reason that you would stop being attracted to him and you cannot think of a reason in which things between the two of you would go sour, my response would be not to place worry that it will happen – because there is a chance that it never will or will not for a very long time.

And the fact you have “never fought” could be a wonderful thing. It could also mean that there’s issues the two of you have been avoiding for the duration of the relationship. It also depends on what “fought” is in your mind and what definition you place on it. Arguing, discussing, and “fighting” are all three different concepts with three different connotations and definitions.

Hope this helps,
Scott

By: suzan

suzan — Tue, 19 Oct 2010 20:32:17 +0000

oh and we have never fought… is that normal????

By: suzan

suzan — Tue, 19 Oct 2010 20:28:12 +0000

ive been with my boyfriend for 5 months it will be 6 months in november, now we have not said “i love you” to eachother yet and the topic has not really been discussed. i am 22 and he is 28 and he also has a 7 yr old son ….. i am terrified of the 6 month mark, he means the world to me and after learning about what happens to you brain 6 months into a relationship ( the chemical that is released when your attracted to some one dies down a little) im scared that we will stop being attracted to each other… we have spoken about the future and how he sees us being together for forever ( and i hope we do =D) but at times i find myself doubting our relationship… im in college and hes a working dad ( with a very involved babys mom with no drama towars me =D) ….he treats me so well but he has not said i love you and i have not met his son … im ok with taking thigs slow but how slow is too slow … i hope it works god i really hope it does but can anybody offer some freindly advice and tell me if im being paranoid??? …

By: Vicky

Vicky — Fri, 08 Oct 2010 02:01:13 +0000

I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost eight months now actually……. and we’ve already talked about forever and such, but of course how do i know that’s going to happen right? God do i hope so though. He defiantly means absolutely everything to me and i love him more than anything else in the world. I like to think he feels the same, and i really think we can last!

By: Derek

Derek — Thu, 02 Sep 2010 02:42:49 +0000

Me & My girlfriend (16 years and 15) have been together for about 5 months now, we’re still going strong & Have a pretty good communication together, though it might sound strange, we’ve been talking about the future and life after highschool, since she still has a year left at highschool when I leave, obviously it’s going to be a stressful time but we’ll just have to see what happens when we approach that time, for now, enjoying the rest of my last year of highschool!

By: kiera

kiera — Sun, 22 Aug 2010 05:29:25 +0000

my boyfriend and i reached the 6 month mark and we are in love, i know it..but i think i let my thoughts wander to much…i dint even know but i’ve thought a bunch of times “hmm, should i even be with him?” we have such great communication! i think that has to do with the fact that we’ve been in this relationship and the whole time, we’ve been over 1,000 miles apart, but im afraid to tell him this and im not going to, i said i would never leave him and i cant just say ive been thinking if we should even be together..we’ve met twice and when im with him the whole world stops but when we are on the phone and he has to go and we havent talked barely all day i miss him so much that i dont even want to talk to him on facebook after and that makes me wonder if i really love him…i mean if i love him i want to talk to him especially if i miss him…right? that isnt the only senario of when i dont want to talk to him……..p.s. is it bad that we’ve never faught? he’s cheated on me once, i’ve cheated on him once but never one sinlge fight =\
please help…im so confused